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How Do I Trust God With My Relationship Status? 3 Essential Steps

I remember once being given the relationship advice “run towards God as fast as you can and eventually, you’ll look to your side and find someone running there with you.” For some Christian couples, who meet in high school and get married while they’re at university, this advice is easy to follow. Their race is a 100m sprint. But what...

What’s The Deal With Emotional Boundaries?

If you’ve been involved with Christian dating culture for more than a week, you’ve probably heard some variation of the term “emotional boundaries,” “emotional chastity” or “guarding your heart.” Emotional boundaries are like the Loch Ness monster of Christian dating. Everyone’s heard of them, but no one knows exactly what they look like or whether they’re even a real thing.

How Do I Talk To My Partner About Porn?

When it comes to important conversations to have with your partner, there are a few obvious topics to cover – money, family, religion and so on. But one topic you might not have considered (or may be avoiding) is pornography. It’s a topic that has almost certainly impacted your partner. One study of 15-29yr olds found that 100% of the...

One Month Into Marriage

I’m a married man! Just over one month ago, Renée and I stood together at the front of a tiny Catholic church in Tauranga, New Zealand. We vowed to be faithful to each other in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health, to love and honour each other all the days of our lives.

5 Things No One Tells You About Being Engaged

147 days. That’s how long Renée and I are going to be engaged for. Less than 5 months, all up, but thank God it's not a day longer. It’s not that engagement is bad. For us, it’s been a time of sharing our lives in a deeper way and looking forward to our future together. But it’s no fairytale. Engagement...

The Most Important Conversation When You Start a Relationship

I always thought I would be an absolute pro at dating. I had read all the books on the subject. Everything by Jason Evert, everything by Joshua Harris, and everything by Dawn Eden. I felt totally prepared. That feeling lasted until exactly five and a half months ago ­– the moment I actually started dating someone.

Young Christian Men, Why I’m Not Dating You (GUEST POST)

Dear Young Christian Men, I’ve never been on a date. That’s not to say I’ve never been in a romantic relationship; I’ve been in several. I’ve just never been on a classic get-to-know-you date, outside of an official relationship.

6 Steps to Say “I’m Sorry”

“I’m sorry.” Seems straightforward, right? Those two little words certainly don’t seem to warrant a 2000+ word, 3 part, explanatory series. However, “I’m sorry”, by itself, usually isn’t enough.