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4 years ago in Love 

How Do I Trust God With My Relationship Status? 3 Essential Steps

I remember once being given the relationship advice “run towards God as fast as you can and eventually, you’ll look to your side and find someone running there with you.” For some Christian couples, who meet in high school and get married while they’re at university, this advice is easy to follow. Their race is a 100m sprint. But what...

4 years ago in Love 

How To Talk To Your Partner About Past Relationships

By the time Renée and I got engaged, we’d known each other for over 10 years. We first met at high school, had dated a couple of times during that period and we remained in varying degrees of contact in the years after.

4 years ago in Love 

10 Rules For Resolving Conflict In A Relationship

If you get your relationship inspiration from Instagram, you could be forgiven for thinking that the best relationships are conflict-free. We get sold a depiction of #relationshipgoals where couples are too busy taking photos in the sunset together to be fighting with each other.

4 years ago in Love 

What’s The Deal With Emotional Boundaries?

If you’ve been involved with Christian dating culture for more than a week, you’ve probably heard some variation of the term “emotional boundaries,” “emotional chastity” or “guarding your heart.” Emotional boundaries are like the Loch Ness monster of Christian dating. Everyone’s heard of them, but no one knows exactly what they look like or whether they’re even a real thing.

4 years ago in Love 

How Do I Know If I’ve Found “The One”?

For most people, deciding who they will marry is the single most life-defining decision they will ever make. As Tim Urban points out in his blog post How To Pick Your Life Partner, “when you choose a life partner, you’re choosing a lot of things, including your parenting partner and someone who will deeply influence your children, your eating companion...

5 years ago in Love 

How Do I “Define The Relationship”?

In high school, we were all pros at defining the relationship. If you liked someone, you would ask him/her “do you want to go out?” This sentence didn’t literally mean “do you want to go out on a date?” That would be too straightforward. If someone said “yes” to going out, then from that moment on, they were now your...

5 years ago in Love 

How Do I Talk To My Partner About Porn?

When it comes to important conversations to have with your partner, there are a few obvious topics to cover – money, family, religion and so on. But one topic you might not have considered (or may be avoiding) is pornography. It’s a topic that has almost certainly impacted your partner. One study of 15-29yr olds found that 100% of the...

5 years ago in Love 

One Month Into Marriage

I’m a married man! Just over one month ago, Renée and I stood together at the front of a tiny Catholic church in Tauranga, New Zealand. We vowed to be faithful to each other in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health, to love and honour each other all the days of our lives.

5 years ago in Love 

Long-Distance Relationships: We Answer 6 Core Questions

For five out of the first six months that Renée and I were together, our relationship was long-distance. We lived 600km apart and only spent one weekend every month together in the same city. Long-distance relationships are tough.

5 years ago in Love 

What Matters To You, Matters To Me

When Renée and I lived in the UK, we did a lot of travel on budget airlines. There airlines were crazy cheap – you could often get a seat to Dublin, Paris or Rome for as little as $30. But the seats were randomly assigned. If Renée and I wanted to sit together, we had to pay an additional $10....

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